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Pronouns: Yours, Mine, Ours

Heidi Waterhouse
SF3 Communications Committee

Hihi!  I want to take a minute to talk to you about an exciting option we’re offering at Registration this year: pronoun stickers!

We offered them last year and got a lot of reaction, so here’s the explanation:

Pronoun stickers are totally optional to wear. You don’t have to declare anything to anyone. You don’t have to wear the same sticker all weekend. These exist to make it easier for all of us to treat each other respectfully.

If someone IS wearing a pronoun sticker, we expect you will use that pronoun for them. Part of our social contract is kind and respectful treatment of each other, and there are few things that feel as terrible as being misgendered ON PURPOSE. If you make a mistake, just correct yourself and move on.

If someone is NOT wearing a pronoun sticker, the default polite behavior is to ask them what pronoun they prefer and then use that. If you don’t know and can’t ask, use the singular “they”.

We also have stickers that say “The singular they is grammatical.” Because we’re nerds like that.

No one is the pronoun police, and you’re not going to get shunned for an honest mistake, but if you persistently and deliberately misgender someone, it’s not pleasant and is sometimes a conduct violation.

If your pronoun is not represented in our pre-printed stickers, we’ll be happy to print a sticker for you custom. You can email registration now at registration@wiscon.net and we’ll try to have it for you when you check in, or it may take up to a day if you ask as you check in. We’ll do our best!

We’re all looking forward to seeing you in less than a week. We hope these stickers make it easier for you to feel safe and respected. As always, if you do not feel safe and respected, please feel free to ask Safety for their help and advice.

Options. God bless WisCon. #WisCon

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All-Gender Toilets

WisCon has toilets for all people — regardless of gender.

We have gender-neutral toilets in two locations:

  • In Conference 1, on the 2nd Floor
  • On the 6th Floor, between rooms 627 and 629

Requests have been made to expand the availability of gender-neutral bathrooms. The hotel cannot currently accommodate this need; the issue remains open. In the meantime, WisCon wishes to be very clear that we support all people’s right to use the restroom they consider appropriate.

Questioning anyone’s right to use a restroom based upon a perceived mismatch between their gender and who a restroom is “for” is a violation of WisCon’s Code of Conduct. If you feel unsafe or harassed, our Safety Team is here to assist you.

Or look for one of our on-call Safety volunteers. They’re wearing bright yellow/green high-visibility vests.

Safer Space for Trans/Genderqueer People

  • contact:  tgqsaferspace@wiscon.net

In response to a member request, we are pleased to provide one room on the sixth floor as designated space for genderqueer and transpeople to come together and dialogue openly about their ideas, experiences, feelings, and so forth. This space is specifically for trans, non-cis, and genderqueer identifying attendees. This space is not for anyone who identifies as cisgender (even cis queer people). The WisCon committee asks that all members respect the use of this space. Body policing or harassment of any kind will not be tolerated (see WisCon’s Code of Conduct for more information). In the past this space offered readings, handouts, and a variety of snacks (including gluten-free/vegan). Additionally, we try to set up a time for genderqueer/trans folk to meet and come together as a group at least once during the convention.

Since this is a relatively space, we want to hear your ideas about how to make this space work for you. What would you like to see happen?  Contact us at the email above!